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I suffered from all-day morning sickness for four months, Jace was giving me every illness possible from childcare, I was already suffering from pelvic girdle pain and was having difficulty walking. I was so over being pregnant and I was only in my second trimester."}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"b390ef42ec82","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"28bb40226b200","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":""}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"788099bd3172","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"0f434856f6730","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":"On top of all this, I also started to experience negative situations in my personal life and the stress from that conflict started to take a toll on my body. I felt dizzy all the time, my nausea came back and I could constantly feel my heart pounding. I began to worry that something was wrong with my heart and that it would cause me and my baby to die during childbirth. My obstetrician referred meto a heart specialist to have my heart monitored. After getting the all-clear physically, they believed I was suffering from anxiety. I started to see the same psychologist that I had seen when I had Jace. "}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"0760625be426","_type":"quote","quote":"By working with her, I was able to prepare myself mentally to give birth."},{"_key":"82da31f3680b","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"73c2fbe7f1b80","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":""}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"a00e27e30d67","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"c9c420e278440","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":"When Lavina was born, I pulled her out and put her onto my chest, but she didn’t make a sound and was blue. After a few seconds, which felt like an eternity, she beganto cry. Instead of feeling joy, I felt absolutely nothing: I just stared at her, I was completely numb. The guilt of that feeling still haunts me and I don’t know if it will ever go away."}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"249874750dd6","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"5defd05679390","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":""}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"8ca61cbc02b6","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"c01c0a23813d0","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":"It took me a few days to start to bond with her. By the time I got home, I was completely in love with her. I was so happy my pregnancy was over and we were both alive and healthy. For the next three months I was juggling everything so easily, I was like Super Mum. Jace was adjusting very well and Lavina was an absolute dream baby. One night, after being put in a situation where I was reminded way too much of painful times during my pregnancy, I broke down screaming and crying because of the thought that Lavina might not have survived and I never would have been her mum. 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My husband began to stay home from work because he and my family didn’t want me to be alone. I was so terrified of being alive, and of dying, that I would sleep as much as I could to escape my reality."}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"6e139dc6fd0d","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"b4183033f2b10","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":""}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"d38862f37721","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"02d967652e630","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":"I was still seeing my psychologist from my pregnancy and after explaining to her what had started happening, I asked if I should be on medication. She gave me a few tasks which she believed would help instead. I woke up oneday and felt instantly better. I decided thatI didn’t need to see my psychologist for another six weeks. This was a huge mistake. After only a few weeks of feeling like myself again, I spiralled back out of control. I visited multiple doctors and got blood tests to check if I had a physical imbalance somewhere, but they were telling me that I was fine and it was a reaction to stress."}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"41a26714c16e","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"aac906fa521c0","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":""}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"462291429502","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"737049c9e24c0","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":"After experiencing one of my worse panic attacks, I thought I wasreally going to die this time. My husband wanted to call an ambulance, but I was scared that they would hospitalise me and take my kids away from me. "}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"4ad21e07dbca","_type":"quote","quote":"So instead, I called a helpline."},{"_key":"bcb0634d4865","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"86cd77bf7721","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":" They told me that they believed I was experiencing postnatal depression and anxiety. The helpline counsellor gave me helpful breathing strategies and advised me to go back to the doctors and get a referral to a perinatal psychologist. She also said that in the meantime, I shouldcontact the PANDA Helpline if need be."}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"3b4cbffb176f","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"fdad437f8d8a0","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":""}],"markDefs":[],"style":"normal"},{"_key":"a23e13f68f47","_type":"quote","quote":"A few days later I ended up calling PANDA and it was the best decision I have ever made."},{"_key":"6a10974266b7","_type":"block","children":[{"_key":"760b258248d00","_type":"span","marks":[],"text":" They were fantastic. They told me to go straight to the doctors and to start medication immediately. They sent me an email of everything we discussed on the phone, so that I could show the doctor. I started to see a perinatal psychologist and after working with her, everything I had experienced all started to make sense. 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